So I was massaging this guy today, a Brian. Around his 40-early 50's, he had come into the spa once before. That time, we talked about tattoos and religion for an hour. For today's sesh, we got chatty about a few very sex-toastable-things.
1. How beautiful people in Hawaii are.
This is so true and I notice and appreciate this beauty every time I leave the island. It could be the weather, the sun, the positive vibes, the 'HI time' but all otherwise, we have an enormous melting pot and I believe that's what brings out the beauty in people, even of one background. Hapa (mixed backgrounds) people are beautiful. It's like how I describe my friend Matt. He looks full Japanese from some angles, complete with sun-highlighted hair, squinty eyes, and the surfer boy thing going on. But from face on, I can see the white in him. Especially when he goes 'Ya the waves are looking nice Ya?'. White boy talk. I love the culture here. So does Brian.
2. How hapa people are almost idolized by every culture in this day and age.
When I think of this statement, I immediately think of ViVi, a Japanese magazine consisting of only Eurasian models (half Japanese, half some-kind-of-white). "There's pretty women in the world....then there are women so gorgeous, they almost take the air out of the room" said Brian, as I propped him on his words. I know exactly what he's talking about. Shannyn Sossamon. Drop deadly. I do believe this is not only a fad right now, but a lovely way to view people and cultures. When you see someone so beautiful, you might wonder, what ARE they? We're usually attracted to exotic or different looking features, hence, when we see mixed backgrounds, we tend to stare for a moment.
3. Why we are attracted to people in the first place.
I watched a documentary on Discovery channel last week on 'Why women have orgasms', which was mostly besides the point, considering the little shenanigans in between caught my interest a whole lot more. Why we are attracted to people and what makes us attracted, attracted me. Studies were done and showed that the more proportional a person was (body type, face structure/shape, eyes, nose, mouth, etc), the more attractive they were to the person. Keep in mind, that everyone has a different 'type' (to each their own), but to the majority of the population, this is how the ball rolls. People like even-ness. They like to see good genes in a mate, thus creating healthy offspring. It's very simple when thought about in animalistic terms. We ARE all animals anyways....aren't we?
4. How those 1920's old time ads are so socially corrupt and sexist.
5. And how times have changed.
You can't not only speak to a woman like that in this day and age, but you could be arrested for it. It's illegal to discriminate and that's lovely. Men and women are in a fair game now. They have each proven to the world that they are capable of doing anything from being elected into office to roller-derbying. Men are tough, but women are tougher (theoretically).
6. This is the theory we concluded to: Men are externally strong, but women have it internally.
I stand by this and have since the day I heard it from one of my instructors a few years ago. She explained to us how men were always viewed as the higher power, because starting from caveman days, they were the ones to hunt, fish, protect, etc. The women were there for moral support. Birthing, feeding, tidying, the 'easy stuff'. Little did anyone notice, as time went on, that the roles would eventually even out, and possibly reverse. Although majority of the world will view roles on a physicality level, that's only one side of the story. Women have internal strength that can only be measured through experience. Childbirth, labor, PERIODS!!!, cramps, hormone levels, risk of pregnancy, risk of HPV, stress from risk of things like this, and most of all, having to deal with Men's perspective of women 'not being able to open a bottle of ketchup'. Brian said it and said it well: "Women are the power source". Amen Brian, AMEMEMEMEMEMEMEMEMEMEN.
In this world, there are many ways to view the opposite sex and you won't find someone to put it as easy as Brian did, or the next peace-maker available. Racism, sexism, prejudice is real and that's the sad thing about the world. As beautiful as our cultures may be, how attractive we may be, as animalistic as we may be, as times change and perspectives fluctuate, you can't have all good without some bad. It's reality. If we could just find a balance......
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